Jakarta , after undergoing cancer surgery usually there will be side effects that accompany the sufferer , for example impotence in men . But the cancer surgery that has failed to make this guy even forgot how to make love .
In 2003 , Richard Bandy asked to prepare for surgery . Bandy and his wife , Sonya Lea had already anticipated the possibility of such Bandy died or activity they may not sesemarak bed first because Bandy may experience impotence . Lea Bandy allow even looking for a new husband or lover .
But who would have thought , who lived Bandy cancer surgery has failed and he suffered internal bleeding which led to brain injury . 10 years since the operation took place , physically Bandy could have sex , but he no longer Bandy once .
As a writer , Lea also shed uneg - unegnya in an article titled " How My Husband Forgot Sex " . There, the woman who is now 54-year -old tells that Bandy short term memory loss and long-term because of the operation . Even Bandy not remember the intimacy in which they live for many years of marriage .
" The man who first taught me how to explore ( in intimate relationships ) has become a stranger. Three years after the brain injury , it is almost impossible to ask what he wants or start a conversation , or remembering how my body respond ( touch ) , " Lea wrote as reported by ABC News, Tuesday ( 02/25/2014 ) .
According to Dr. Paul Sugarbaker , director of the Center for Gastrointestinal malignancies , MedStar Washington Hospital Center , USA , Bandy suffered a rare cancer called pseudomyxoma peritonei ( PMP ) , which only affects about 5,000 people in the U.S. alone .
PMP arises because of the presence of polyps in the appendix ruptured and spread of tumor cells into mucus -producing parts of the stomach . " It is usually fatal , although now we can cure 80 percent of patients with a new type of operation , " explained Sugarbaker . Bandy unfortunately not addressed by this doctor .
The standard treatment for PMP is hyperthermic intraperitoneal chemotherapy alone ( HIPEC ) , chemotherapy with high concentrations of chemicals are directly routed to the abdomen during the operation . But sometimes , a kind of high -dose chemotherapeutic agents can indeed lead to serious complications that lead to bleeding in the brain or a stroke .
Sugarbaker also said the worst possible thing might happen to Bandy . Since there are such cases , Sugarbaker also discontinue use of the chemo drugs in the hospital where he practiced .
According to Lea , in the case of Bandy , his brain deprived of oxygen during a critical period after 32 ounces of blood flooded his stomach when the operation took place . His own family has filed a malpractice lawsuit to the hospital who operated Bandy .
But one thing that is felt directly by Leah is about how Bandy no longer remember how they have sex , despite having been together since high school . In addition to writing his story in various articles , Leah also is busy making memoir titled ' Wondering Who You Are ' in which he is to strip away about cancer , brain surgery , the places they've visited , art , food , sex , and family .
" I love writing . 's Making me cry . , But most of the memory chunks of my life I can not remember . Birthday I do not remember my kids or my wedding day . I also do not really remember what sex was before the brain injury occurred , "Bandy ( 56 ) .
However, the two couples are determined to restore their romance , somehow. One of the challenges is the need to take the initiative now Leah first. When they were dating , for example , Lealah who prepares all the topics of conversation. " Because he could not start it ( the conversation ) naturally , " he said .
Especially in bed , Lea also needs to be more masculine and moved first to start their sexual activity , for example by saying what he wants . For two years they also try to visit a number of countries such as France and India to be closer .
" And now sex feels so much better because of the trips we did together , " said Lea .
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